A Life with Fear

The Emotion that I usually sit with is Fear…Fear of so many things it’s actually ridiculous.

However, I am an honest person and I cannot omit this fact that I live with Fear daily.

Fear prevents me from doing, trying, and living my dream life which prohibits me from manifesting. So Fear and I get together and stare at each other regularly wondering how we will manage our lives together because how am I to be Ninja, the Blasian Manifestation if I cannot manifest my dreams into reality?

Fear is actually a kind and silly Emotion. It pays attention to the possibilities of what could go wrong to damage my Self or my Ego. Sometimes these thoughts are practical and other times they’re so unrealistic it’s almost invalid. In any case, I know that Fear truly has my best interest at heart and it’s really up to me to kindly work through Fear’s worries. Perfect example – today’s blog post.

Me: I started a blog and I’m so excited to finally start blogging today since I have all the time in the world!

Fear: But you don’t know how to use WordPress and Bluehost. And even though you bought it, you don’t really know what it is and how to make a real blog.

Me: Ya… you’re right. I’m not tech savvy and I have no idea what those things are and I bought them anyways thinking I could figure it out on my own. But there’s always YouTube, Pinterest, and Google too. It’ll take time and effort but I still think I can manage somehow.

Fear: And what about the site itself? It looks nothing like your brand that you have on IG or YouTube either. It’s actually completely different looking and people will get confused. What are you writing about? How are you going to make money from this or are you spending both YOUR money and time with no return at all again? I thought you were focusing on financial wealth and minimalism this year? If you’re being minimalist, why are you focusing on more than one thing again?

… and Fear continues on and on Anxiety hears all this and sits in on Fear’s spewing as the cheerleader of emotional support and validation. I swear they’re the bestest friends ever. Meanwhile, I shrink and try to find something comfortable that I know I can do because I want to do something productive if I can’t do something new and scary- so nothing happens. Nothing manifests. And we are back in this cycle.

When Fear starts, here are 5 things that I remind myself of:

It’s ok to start small.

It can be very overwhelming to create The Big Picture.

Breaking things down has always been helpful for me. This can be creating an outline, creating a task list, working in time slots, breaking it down into manageable things for you and see where you can go from there.

It doesn’t have to be perfect.

Since Perfection is an Absolute Idea, it cannot exist in the Tangible world in its’ form. What we can do though is to aim for the closest thing representing this Absolute Idea. Once we manifest from the Intangible to Tangible, We can mold it, “fix” it, and play with it to our liking.

I have the opportunity to learn from my mistakes.

Mistakes and errors definitely deflate our Ego so maybe we need an Ego check. Ego is a self-centered Beast of pride and confidence so it can be challenging to work with at times. These characteristics in and of themselves aren’t “bad” either so check in with kindness when speaking with Ego.

Failure is part of the process to Success.

Progress is the path. And just so we are clear, the destination doesn’t end in Failure. It doesn’t have to. If Failure was just another step toward Success, wouldn’t you keep going? It’s our choice to continue on or not.

We don’t stop at Failure because that’s not our destination.

Do that one scary thing.

We know that we don’t grow in spaces of comfort. We can fortify and strengthen what is in this space but we grow in the discomfort.

Find the “Scary Thing” that makes your heart beat a little faster, your eyes get a little wider, your breath a little shorter and refer back to the first point I shared. It’s ok to smart small. Scale the Scary Thing and adjust it so it’s a little less scary. A little less uncomfortable. A little less overwhelming. But you have to be honest with yourself and keep this Thing in the Scary range and NOT the Comfortable range.

Did you surprise yourself a little? I know I did. And Fear has finally quieted down as well.

Here’s to You, Me, Self, I, Fear and whole bunch of other Emotions that are a part this Life.

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